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dear date

Dear you,

Your dates deserve to be written down.

Dear Date is a private journal for your dating life. Name what you're looking for, log how each date actually felt, and see where the two meet — or don't.

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"Not just what happened —
but how you actually felt."

for the people who take dating seriously

Log every date, in minutes

A guided 5-step form captures what matters: where you went, how your body felt, the signals you noticed, and your gut feeling about seeing them again.

See your patterns emerge

Green flags, red flags, and feelings accumulate over time into something real. Start to see what you're drawn to — and what keeps showing up uninvited.

Know yourself better

Your journal becomes a mirror. Your dating personality takes shape from your own words — not an algorithm's guess, but your actual lived experience.

Before the first date

A letter to your future date

Dear future date,

I'm looking for someone who listens without rushing to fix. Who has their own rhythm — friends, hobbies, a life that doesn't collapse into mine. Someone who says what they mean.

What matters to me
Listened well Talked about values Was present (no phone)
Deal-breakers
Brought up ex Love-bombed a bit

So you can notice when it shows up. And when it doesn't.

What it looks like

A page from your journal

James
Café Altro Paradiso · NYC
March 14, 2025
Felt great
Being myself
4 / 5
Green flags
Asked good questions Made me laugh Present & attentive
Red flags
Talked over me once
Reflection
"I felt surprisingly at ease — more than I expected. There's something calming about someone who isn't performing. I'd see him again."
One word
Hopeful

How it works

Four small steps. One clearer view.

1

Name what you want

Write a letter to your future date. Mark your green flags and deal-breakers.

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Log each date

5 gentle prompts capture what mattered. Takes about 3 minutes.

3

See what emerges

Flags, feelings, and scores build into visible patterns over time.

4

Understand yourself

Notice where what you want and what you're getting line up — or don't.

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