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Dear you,
Dear Date is a private journal for your dating life. Name what you're looking for, log how each date actually felt, and see where the two meet — or don't.
"Not just what happened —
but how you actually felt."
for the people who take dating seriously
A guided 5-step form captures what matters: where you went, how your body felt, the signals you noticed, and your gut feeling about seeing them again.
Green flags, red flags, and feelings accumulate over time into something real. Start to see what you're drawn to — and what keeps showing up uninvited.
Your journal becomes a mirror. Your dating personality takes shape from your own words — not an algorithm's guess, but your actual lived experience.
Before the first date
I'm looking for someone who listens without rushing to fix. Who has their own rhythm — friends, hobbies, a life that doesn't collapse into mine. Someone who says what they mean.
So you can notice when it shows up. And when it doesn't.
What it looks like
How it works
Write a letter to your future date. Mark your green flags and deal-breakers.
5 gentle prompts capture what mattered. Takes about 3 minutes.
Flags, feelings, and scores build into visible patterns over time.
Notice where what you want and what you're getting line up — or don't.
Free to journal, as many dates as it takes. No credit card required.
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